Tuesday, May 5, 2015

Modern Girl Struggles: Milestone Birthdays

It starts around your 25th birthday, you look around and you start to question everything you've done up to this point and many of us realize we haven't accomplished what we thought we would by this age. Then you start to freak out! You soon return to normal until the next milestone, then it gets worse. I've experienced this myself, even dreaded it, but I learned how to celebrate these miles stones again and appreciate them with these three gems of advice.


I know this may seem a little grim, but it's definitely real. I was speaking with one of my cousins about my birthday and how I was "adjusting", and he simply said, "you know there's another alternative to getting older. That definitely changed my perspective on things.  So many people don't get to live in the moment that your living right now, so if your having trouble with a birthday, just start there. And with all the breathe in your lungs, blow out those candles with gusto!


I know you guys are like, why are you showing me a cup?? Well this picture in general represents a lot. When I turned 25, I had what I call a "quarter life crisis". I was just not where I thought I would be in life AT ALL!! So after a few minor break downs and some soul searching, I set out to change it. After all, I was still breathing so it wasn't too late. And guess what? I accomplished those goals!! So instead of having a pity party, just acknowledge that you want to be better and do more, and then GO DO IT!!!


After all it is your birthday! Go celebrate and live it up! And yes, I'm 30 :-) More to come about what I did after in a later post! XOXO


  1. When I found your site and saw this picture of the headstone, my heart stopped a bit. Your mother and I were the best of friends in high school. I think of her and Mrs. Rosetta often and a lot of memories came flooding back. I have a couple of pics of you as a young child and wondered how you and your sister were. It's great to see that you are well and are an inspiration to others. God bless and continue with the good work...Angela

    1. Hello Angela! First I want to say that I think it's amazing that you found my blog. It's taken me a while to respond, but I've literally thought about your response to my post everyday. I told my grandmother about you and she knew exactly who you were. This touched me because I don't know any of my mother's good friends. Only family. So to know there is someone out there that thinks of our well-being is heartwarming. Thank you so much for reaching out to me and I pray that you and your family are well.